Many human endeavors and pursuits are motivated by the opposite sex for sex and approval from that sex (just thinking about sex makes me....can't...think...must...get...sex...)
Okay...sorry...back on track...
Most of our motivations for system behavior are by one of our most basic desires. Sex. From bombing a foreign land, to making lots of money, to working out...Sex. It's very powerful. And not just the act of sex. But the approval that comes from women. That motivates men. That's what motivates male leaders of companies and countries to 'strut their stuff...'
I mean, look at a picture of Joy Bryant. She's sexy...playful...wow....
or this one
and how can you not want to go system? Once again desire. If you can tame the desire you can look, admire and appreciate beautiful woman. When you just look at woman that you don't know you can appreciate her physical beauty. Just as you can appreciate a work of art. All women are beautiful! True...
Okay...sorry...back on track...
Most of our motivations for system behavior are by one of our most basic desires. Sex. From bombing a foreign land, to making lots of money, to working out...Sex. It's very powerful. And not just the act of sex. But the approval that comes from women. That motivates men. That's what motivates male leaders of companies and countries to 'strut their stuff...'
I mean, look at a picture of Joy Bryant. She's sexy...playful...wow....
or this one
and how can you not want to go system? Once again desire. If you can tame the desire you can look, admire and appreciate beautiful woman. When you just look at woman that you don't know you can appreciate her physical beauty. Just as you can appreciate a work of art. All women are beautiful! True...
The joy of beautiful things can be separate from the possession of beautful things. I think of how dictators have pillaged the great musuems of the world as Hitler did. Possession can be a dangerous thing...I think back to the post on 'the Zen System'.
Anyway...for a man...all woman are potential mates. (A friend mentioned this to me a while back...most excellent point). All woman have that special ability to satisfy 80% of a man's needs. Just a woman being a woman is a wondrous thing. The only thing a man is tinkering with in his selection is that remaining 20%. Granted, that 20% can have a profound effect upon your happiness and well-being. But just accepting a woman as herself meets most of a man's needs. He will stop searching, be satisfied and realize the true beauty of the woman in his life...once you see that beauty, there will be no need for any other...and that's the true Joy! (sorry, I love these cheesy little 'wrapups' to my posts...)
That said, (this is the update to the post) the modern man/woman relationship has changed. The social thread is definitely evolving and we are experiencing it now. I have noticed in my previous and current relationship that women resist compromise. They are resisting firmly today the traditional puritanical role that they played in American culture. That is good. I think woman have been oppressed in modern society. In a primal society they had different means of exerting leverage. We are now seeing that play out in today's relationships and why 50% of marriages fail. They fail because that model is not working. If the current approach to relationships was what we 'were supposed to do' then would we have a 50% failure rate? If something didn't work half the time (isn't that equivalent to flipping a coin) wouldn't you redesign your process? And of the 50% that stay together, how happy are they? Modern society has provided us with an oversimplified and compartmentalized version of what a our roles are supposed to be. The male/female relationship is no different.
Anyway...for a man...all woman are potential mates. (A friend mentioned this to me a while back...most excellent point). All woman have that special ability to satisfy 80% of a man's needs. Just a woman being a woman is a wondrous thing. The only thing a man is tinkering with in his selection is that remaining 20%. Granted, that 20% can have a profound effect upon your happiness and well-being. But just accepting a woman as herself meets most of a man's needs. He will stop searching, be satisfied and realize the true beauty of the woman in his life...once you see that beauty, there will be no need for any other...and that's the true Joy! (sorry, I love these cheesy little 'wrapups' to my posts...)
That said, (this is the update to the post) the modern man/woman relationship has changed. The social thread is definitely evolving and we are experiencing it now. I have noticed in my previous and current relationship that women resist compromise. They are resisting firmly today the traditional puritanical role that they played in American culture. That is good. I think woman have been oppressed in modern society. In a primal society they had different means of exerting leverage. We are now seeing that play out in today's relationships and why 50% of marriages fail. They fail because that model is not working. If the current approach to relationships was what we 'were supposed to do' then would we have a 50% failure rate? If something didn't work half the time (isn't that equivalent to flipping a coin) wouldn't you redesign your process? And of the 50% that stay together, how happy are they? Modern society has provided us with an oversimplified and compartmentalized version of what a our roles are supposed to be. The male/female relationship is no different.
